We'd all been talking about accumulated belongings that had to be sorted through and weeded out; the when/where/how of retiring and how we will choose to live once both spouses are free of reporting to jobs; worries about our children's' happiness, security, and well-being. We were digging our spades in deep and turning over big clods of the rich soil of fear and anxiety about the future.
Rob told me what his mother had said many years ago on her deathbed, and, amazingly, those were just the words that I needed to hear right now.
Brad, Jan, me & Rob
The dashboard light came on saying "ABS off," whatever that means.
Two days ago my younger daughter left South Africa after living there for half a decade and building a whole life, a whole circle of friends; I worry day and night about her heart-wrenching transition.
There's nothing planned for dinner.
My older daughter is constantly overloaded with work in her Ph.D. program.
I have writing deadlines and web design deadlines and a backlog of emails.
My husband and I are up against a decision to apply for Social Security - or not - and if so, under what strategy?
My 90-year-old mother-in-law refuses to wear an alert bracelet even though she's had several bad falls over the last two years.
My hair is going gray and frankly, I'm glad; it's almost weird that it's refused to go gray for so long, but it's in threads and patches, not beautiful streaks or all-over silver like some lucky women; how do I deal with this new feature of my body?
There are weeds in my yard and I hate gardening.
I was using this carb-monitoring app on my phone and it was really cool and then one day I just stopped using it - what the hell; why did I quit?
I know how lucky I am to have lived as long as I have, but I struggle against depression over being old and not having accomplished what I had hoped.
Should I have cataract surgery soon, as my doctor recommends, even though it totally creeps me out to remove a piece of my body - the lens of my eye, for god's sake, and replace it with a piece of plastic?
Why can't I find time to watch all the movies I've listed in my phone's memo app?
I missed so many ballet classes last month, I'm afraid I won't be able to keep up when I go to class tomorrow!
I'm literally losing sleep over all this - mostly over worrying about my daughters, and lack of sleep creates serious health risks. Maybe that's why my hair suddenly is going gray so fast?
Where are my keys? How, goddammit, have I lost my keys again?
It COULD have been this one! (It wasn't.)