Goodbye to Dear Mary Ellen Hamor

Goodbye to Dear Mary Ellen Hamor

I do not want to write this. I do not. I’ve put it off for nearly a year. It’s just too sad. Too wrong. Too unfair.

I’ll just remember:

I remember when I first met Mary Ellen. She came to Women At Woodstock for the first time in 2013, back when we were still meeting at Emerson Resort and Spa. I remember her strong presence; a mix of confidence and quiet.

And I remember her vulnerability. Sitting in the Great Room during our Mastermind Session, in a circle of sofas occupied by women she’d only just met, Mel spoke of her life honestly and openly. I was so impressed by her willingness to trust all of us – and I’ve come to realize, over the years, that this is often what happens when a group of women over 50 gathers: trust, listening, compassion. I’m so glad Mel received that from us. And I witnessed her giving the same to others at Women At Woodstock, over and over again in the years that followed.

I am stunned that she is gone. And I know I am not alone in that. So many posted their grief, their stories, their remembrances on her Facebook page and their own pages too when Mel left us. I was stunned into silence back then and am only coming into acceptance now. So, I’m finally saying Goodbye, Mary Ellen. It was good to know you. I’m so very sorry you’re gone, and I so wish the best for your daughter, who you spoke of so often with such clear, deep love–and the anguish of not wanting, ever, to have to say goodbye. Of course, we all will have to do that one day. It’s just that your day came way, way too early.   

4 thoughts on “Goodbye to Dear Mary Ellen Hamor

  • April 14, 2022 at 5:55 pm
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    Thanks to all the ladies. I have no words. Not only was Mary Ellen my sister, but she was my best friend too. Part of me left with her when she passed on to heaven. I love you all.

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    • April 14, 2022 at 7:40 pm
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      She spoke of you often when she was here with us. I, personally, was so impressed with what a stalwart support and companion you were. Clearly there was no question that you would be at her side, always, when needed. That’s rare, even among siblings, maybe more so from a brother. Men are often not given permission, or shown the way, to be caring in the way that women are told they should be. You surmounted that. And so she was loved. What a gift you gave her.

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  • May 9, 2022 at 1:05 pm
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    If any of you wonderful ladies have some pictures of Mary Ellen, I would be so grateful if you could send me copies. My email address is, kenhume55@gmail.com . Thank you so much and God bless you for being such good friends to Mary Ellen.

    Ken

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    • May 30, 2022 at 11:12 am
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      Ken –
      Apologies for the delay in responding. Yes, I will send you some photos and I know others have some great photos too. I’ll send out an email to our alums with a specific request. We were glad to be good friends to Mel; she was surely a good friend to us and we miss her dearly.
      With love,
      Ann

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